Love...
I've been thinking about love more than usual lately.
As a scholar of love research, the issues of love are often at the fore of mind. And with Valentine Day approaching, I have another reason to ponder love, including its various forms.
But I've also been writing an essay for an upcoming conference on love and machines. Scott Midson at Lincoln Theological Institute of the University of Manchester is hosting this February event, and I'm among 8-10 scholars presenting research.
Black Mirror
To get a feel for what others think about love and machines, I've been reading widely. One subject that comes up often is sex with machines, what is called "mechanophilia." In my previous work, I've distinguished between love and sex/romance, saying that love promotes well-being. Sex/romance may or may not promote well-being, and therefore may or may not be loving.
One provocative source in the popular culture reflection on love and machines is the TV series, Black Mirror. The underlying question explored in many episodes is whether machines, technology, or computers make our lives better. In my language, do they promote overall well-being.
Many Black Mirror narratives begin with society or experts recommending some machine as a helpful tool. But they end with the same machine bringing heartache and ruin.
Do Machines Know Better?
I have decided to begin my conference paper with this provocative quote from Black Mirror co-creator Charlie Brooker:
“It looks like we're going to have to rethink our position in the world over the next four decades or so, as we begin to cede more and more control to automation and computers. We've got to work out what our purpose is. And if we've got [a machine] that thinks it knows better than us what we should be doing, maybe we should start listening to it.”
I don't share Brooker's view that machines can know better than us what we should be doing. But I do think machines play a key role in the work to evaluate what we should be doing. Machines can help us discern the common good. Machines can help us decide what love requires.
What I like most about Brooker's provocative post is his statement, "We've got to work out what our purpose is." I agree. As I see it, our purpose is love. And love promotes overall well-being.
Love and Well-Being
I define love as acting intentionally, in response to God and others, to promote overall well-being. I explain this definition in many of my publications, including my book titled, Defining Love (Brazos 2010)
Theologians and philosophers use various synonyms for “well-being.” They speak of blessedness, flourishing, abundant life, wholeness, genuine happiness, shalom, or the good life.
Love sometimes involves promoting good in physical, mental, social, environmental, and spiritual dimensions of life. But also it sometimes involves promoting good in romantic and sexual dimensions. To promote overall well-being is act with the greater good in mind, not just individual pleasures.
Valentine Day
Perhaps with this view of love, we can also make sense of love on Valentine Day. Love can take the form of romance or sex, but romance and sex are loving only insofar as our intent is to promote well-being.
Here's to hoping you express love this February, in whatever form you choose!
Tom